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How to do rimming properly?


Are you considering rimming your partner, or would you like to receive rimming, and are you looking for advice to make this moment as successful as possible? Then you've come to the right place, you'll receive all our advice here so that rimming, which is also more poetically called rose leaf, is done as perfectly as possible. Still a little taboo, rimming is nevertheless a practice that offers great sensations, because the anus is filled with nerve endings. In addition, rimming can be a preliminary step to sodomy or the use of sex toys such as the anal plug .

Below is everything you need to know about rimming.

What is rimming?


Before presenting in detail the good practices for good rimming, here is first of all a small definition. An anilingus is a sexual practice, more precisely an oral practice, which consists of titillating, stimulating the anus of your partner using your tongue. Why is this an interesting area for a sexual practice? Because the anus has many nerve endings which, when tickled, can cause very beautiful sensations.

You will understand, everyone having an anus, rimming is a sexual practice that can concern:

  • both men and women,

  • both straight and gay.


How many people practice rimming in France?


Through my Instagram account @faistoimale dedicated to male sexualities, I asked several questions to my community on the subject of rimming. Indeed, I wanted to have a precise idea of the practice, a very taboo practice that few people dare to talk about.

  • To the question, have you ever done rimming, nearly 82% of respondents (more than 1,500) answered yes.

  • To the question, have you ever received a rimming, nearly 83 of the respondents answered yes.

The practice of rimming as a sexual act is therefore very widespread.

I also asked a third question, do you like rimming?, 87% of people answered yes. And yes, you can do rimming to please your partner without liking this practice.

There you go, so if you had any fears telling yourself that no one is doing it, well you are wrong and you can go for it. Likewise, if you don't dare to do it to your partner, don't worry here either: it is very likely that he or she has already received or done rimming.

Why do rimming?

Several reasons can lead you to do a rimming

Rimming to please your partner


As we saw above, the anus contains many nerve endings. It is therefore a very pleasant area for the person receiving the rimming, it can indeed allow him to discover new sensations or quite simply to heat up! Rimming is not necessarily a preliminary act, it can occur at any time during sexual intercourse.

But above all, rimming can also be a good way to excite yourself by doing it to your partner. Indeed, when a rimming is done, it is not uncommon to see the partner waddle, bulge the torso or chest, shiver, even do a masturbation at the same time, etc. Especially since when you do a rimming your partner may think that anal penetration will happen quickly, exciting him even more. If you ever have a beard, the feeling of hair against your buttocks can also be a source of excitement. You are going to have a very nice glimpse of the pleasure you are giving to your partner, which could therefore increase your excitement.

Rimming as a preparatory act for sodomy

One of the reasons why rimming can be performed is of course as a preliminary step to sodomy. And this for two reasons :

  • on the one hand, it allows your partner to prepare for anal penetration, whether with a penis or with a sex toy such as an anal plug or prostate stimulator. Indeed, while you are rimming him, your partner concentrates on this area, even relaxes on this area, which will make anal penetration easier.

  • on the other hand, by doing a rimming, not only will you start the dilation of the anus thanks to the work of your tongue, but in addition you will bring natural lubricant with your saliva. However, be careful on this point, saliva will never replace a good anal lubricant. To dilate the anus even more, you can use your fingers or even a plug-type sex toy.

Rimming as an act of domination

Finally, apart from the position generally lying on your stomach or on your back with folded legs, rimming can also be performed as part of a game of domination and submission. Indeed, the person who performs the rimming can have total domination over his or her partner. And besides, this practice may be accompanied by small spankings, spitting in the anus, using an anal hook , etc.

How to prepare for rimming?

Both partners must of course prepare themselves so that the rimming is perfectly carried out.


A shower before rimming

Your partner must have taken a shower beforehand, to be perfectly clean. Of course, a particular focus will have to be made on the level of the anus, with a good cleaning and a good shower gel (the softest possible, because the anus being a fragile zone). So, at the level of the shower, insist well on the anus, on the contours of the anus and even a little inside the anus by washing it well. We insist on the inside of the anus because during rimming, the tongue can indeed enter the anus. Why is this step of the shower important?

  • because the anus can be an area with a fairly strong smell, which can be unpleasant for the person who is going to perform the rimming.

  • moreover, the anus is not necessarily a completely clean area, fecal matter can be there, especially in the hairs, if it has been poorly cleaned after having a bowel movement.


After taking your shower, remember to dry yourself well, so as not to leave any moisture. Indeed, in some people, the humidity can cause a strong smell, which could disturb your partner who is going to give you anilingus.


Waxing before rimming

Another advice we would give you to make rimming as pleasant as possible is to go through the depilation of the anus first. Yes, you read it correctly. Moreover, rather than talking about waxing the anus, it is more correct to talk about waxing the intergluteal furrow (or SIF), i.e. the area located in the groove of the buttocks, before the so anus. Because the anus, being a mucous membrane, has no hair. If your partner has butt hair, you can also ask him to do a butt wax if you don't like the hair.


Why do a hair removal of the SIF before? For two main reasons:

  • without hair at the SIF, there will be no risk of faecal matter sticking to the hairs. The area will therefore be perfectly clean to accommodate licks.

  • the sensation will be more pleasant, both for the one doing the rimming (no risk of having hairs stuck to the tongue) and for the one receiving the rimming (more pleasure because the sensations will be stronger).


You can even perform this part of hair removal with your partner, it can indeed be a sexual game.

Here are the products I recommend for removing hair from the anus. I do not recommend using a depilatory cream , because the anus is a very fragile area and the cream could burn the area. Which would be a shame just before rimming.

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Designed for shaving the male body. Rounded head for maximum comfort. Three lubricating strips for maximum softness. Ergonomic non-slip handle for control in the shower.

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The anti-irritation shaving gel allows easy shaving of body hair without irritation.

Suitable for the shower.

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Our tips for successful rimming

Now that the anus, yours or your partner's, is perfectly clean, here are our tips to make the rimming as good as possible.

Sweetness in rimming

Little advice, do not go crazy, putting your tongue directly into the anus. No, take your time. The anus is an erogenous zone, which has many nerve endings. It will therefore be necessary to titillate them a little so that your partner warms up and takes even more pleasure in the rimming that you are going to do to him.

  • start by gently stroking the entire FIS area with your finger.

  • feel free to kiss your partner's bottom


You can also start this step when your partner still has his underwear, by passing your fingers through the underwear.

The idea here is of course to relax your partner, so that he or she is in the best conditions for the rest of the actions.


Get down to business

Then, once you have done this titillating step, you can directly run your finger over the anus, which you will have moistened beforehand. This will be more pleasant for your partner, as the anus is not an area that naturally lubricates itself. With your very wet finger, feel free to insert it into your partner's anus. You could even use a small butt plug , or a beginner's butt plug , to bring even more eroticism to this moment.

Once the finger is in, you can then go with your tongue.


What gestures to make during an anilingus

There is no one way to rimming, it's up to you to find the method that works for you, but also for your partner. And for that, you have to listen! Listen to how he or she reacts to the gestures you make, his breath, his breathing, the way he or she moves his or her body. These are the best clues to know that what you are doing, he likes.

In a general way :

  • lick the contours of the anus, but be careful, using short licks that will tickle the nerve endings. Your tongue should be very wet.

  • then gently enter your tongue into the anus if you are comfortable, giving small licks. You can thus make the gesture of penetration by moving back and forth with your tongue.


What is the best position for rimming?

There's no better position, it's all about you and your partner being comfortable.

But there are still positions with which the anus will be more accessible, which will give free rein to your imagination with your tongue.


The most suitable position for rimming is when your partner is lying on their stomach, buttocks slightly raised. To make it comfortable, you can place a pillow at his belly. In this position, access to the anus is optimal.


Another position that may be adequate, but will require more energy from your partner receiving the rimming, is lying on their back with their legs raised and bent towards their belly.


You now have all the keys to good rimming, which can be a preliminary step to sodomy or the use of sex toys.

Use a sex toy

We talked about it above, you can also use a sex toy at the same time as you are rimming. This not only prolongs the act (the tongue can get tired quickly) but also to bring even more pleasure to your partner (and therefore to you).

To do this, we recommend two types of sex toys: the anal plug and the prostate stimulator. Here is the product we recommend.

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Opinion of Jonathan - Le Male Français on the Helix Syn Trident prostate stimulator:

It's quite simply the ideal sex toy for discovering the joys of anal pleasure! Yes, I am talking about joy because when you have discovered this, you will not be able to do without it! This Helix Syn Trident prostate stimulator is very pleasant to the touch, very soft, which allows gentle introduction into the anus. Likewise, it is relatively thin, which means that beginners will have no fear in using it. Its shape will directly touch the prostate and the base will allow you to press the perineum at the same time: double pleasure guaranteed.

But remember, just because you're rimming your partner doesn't mean you should disregard your own pleasure. So you can masturbate while you take care of your partner's anus. Also, a good cock ring to increase sensations can be very relevant.


Opinion of Jonathan - Le Male Français on the We-Vibe Cockring Bond:

The strong point of this cock ring lies in its opening which allows very easy fitting around the penis (or around the testicles). And this regardless of the size of the penis. The remote control that comes with it allows you to play with the different vibration modes simply. The elongated shape of this cock ring also allows you to press on the perineum for even more sensations. A very good cock ring for a solo moment during masturbation or during a relationship with his/her partner.

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