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How to masturbate as a couple?

Masturbating as a couple can be a highly intense event when all the elements are present . For some couples, we can indeed see a certain taboo in masturbation, while it is a completely natural sexual act. Why deprive yourself of having fun for two, with your partner? Moreover, masturbation during the sexual act can be enough on its own without there necessarily being penetration. We must not forget that penetration is not a necessary step in relationships and that enjoyment can come by other means, such as masturbating as a couple.

Through this article, I will give you all my advice so that you can masturbate well as a couple.

Tips for masturbating as a couple

Couple masturbation can be a good way to have fun together, breaking the routine of your sexual practices a little. It can indeed be very pleasant to masturbate as a couple, either each on their side but lying close to the other, or the other who masturbates you .

To masturbate well as a couple, you can:

  • you masturbate while masturbating your partner: this will allow both people to have pleasure at the same time, to come at the same time, and to increase the pleasure. In addition, seeing, seeing the other take pleasure in masturbating can add excitement.

  • offer your partner to masturbate with a masturbator: adding a sex toy to your relationship can indeed spice it up

  • feel free to ask your partner to pause with their hand and occasionally use their mouth or tongue.

If you really want to know how to give your partner the most pleasure by masturbating, the best thing to do is to ask him to masturbate, solo, in front of you . Why ? Because in this way, you will be able to see how your partner goes about having fun:

  • does your partner focus on a particular area? 

  • what rhythm does he (she) take to masturbate?

  • Does he (she) caress certain parts of his body, erogenous zones, to increase his pleasure?

So many clues that will allow you to know what really gives him pleasure and you can then focus on these elements to masturbate him well. 

Likewise, do not hesitate to ask him or her to express themselves while you masturbate them, that they tell you what they want: whether you go faster or slower, whether you look him or her in the eye while you do the masturbation, etc.


Another action that you could try is to perform rimming while your partner is masturbating, the sensations will be increased tenfold thanks to the nerve endings of the anus which will also be titillated.

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What accessories to use to masturbate as a couple?

To masturbate well as a couple, I advise you to use accessories to spice up your session.  Accessories that you can even use for your solo masturbation sessions, as long as you go!

The importance of lubricant

Whether for Mr. or Mrs., the lubricant will certainly be essential for your masturbation session. And this for several reasons:  


  • let's not forget that some guys don't get wet at all and masturbating on a dry penis is not the most pleasant. It may even hurt some people. You are going to tell me that saliva is enough. Indeed, this may be enough, but it is not ideal! Because the saliva will dry with the back and forth movements on the penis, so you will have to put it back.

  • the same is true for some women who will need additional lubrication so that they can make the most of masturbation.

  • Finally, the greater the lubrication, the greater the pleasure! Do not hesitate to abuse it.


Regarding the type of lubricant, I recommend an anal lubricant. Why ? Because this type of lubricant lasts longer than a vaginal lubricant! You can therefore use it longer, which will make the masturbation session longer!

Here is the lubricant that I recommend, in terms of value for money, it is perfect.

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Try the warming cream

I want to clarify that this product is only intended for your penis partner! Because it is a product dedicated to male masturbation! This product is a 2 in 1 because it will both act as a lubricant but will have a warming effect. And on the glans it becomes magic! 


My opinion on this warming cream after using it:

Inevitably when I received this cream I hastened to test it. Feeling hot on the penis and glans was something I had never experienced. And it is well known that applying a cream or lubricant to the penis during masturbation increases sensations . Well this warming cream is very very pleasant! A new sensation that brings additional pleasure to masturbation. So associated with a masturbator or a cock ring, it's a new experience guaranteed!

Use a male masturbator

Masturbating your partner with your hand is good, it's the basis. But bring new sensations thanks to a masturbator for men , and you will then make him experience new sensations! Especially if your partner is not used to using sex toys alone, then this will spice up the sexual act (and therefore increase his pleasure). This blog being dedicated to men, and having no women in the team, I will unfortunately only be able to recommend masturbators for men. But know ladies, that the LELO brand is the specialist in clitoral stimulators. Little message for the guys: if you want to please the lady, or surprise her, surprise her by offering her a clitoral stimulator.


Find here a selection of clitoral stimulators from the Lelo brand .


But then, let's get back to masturbators for men. I particularly recommend the Men Heat Vibrations masturbator from the leader in masturbators, Satisfyer.


My opinion on this masturbator after use:

It is certainly one of the best masturbators with a price below 60€. For having tested it, it offers very nice sensations, which will change you from your "masturbation routine". The integration of the penis in this masturbator is very simple, it is ergonomic, easy to handle. And above all, it offers a large number of different vibrations, enough to vary the pleasures! And it's true that the heat function brings a little more not unpleasant at all! In short tested and highly approved !! And above all, very good value for money.

Here is a short presentation video of this masturbator:

Another masturbator that you could use, also cheaper than the first, is the Original Vacuum Cup masturbator from the Tenga brand. So small point of precision, it is cheaper because it is also disposable. Namely that you can only use it 2 to 4 times maximum depending on your use, and the force you put into it! With this type of disposable masturbator, you have to move back and forth on your penis.


Opinion of Jonathan - Le Male Français on the Original Vacuum Cup masturbator:

If you want a mix between a basic masturbator such as Tenga eggs and more elaborate vibrating masturbators, then this Original Vacuum Cup masturbator from Tenga is for you. It's a disposable masturbator (well, several uses are possible) but which offers a relatively thick texture in which you can insert your whole penis. Very pleasant textures inside to have very nice sensations during masturbation. And above all the deep throat effect is really very well done!!  

Place a cock ring on your penis

If you want to surprise your partner during the masturbation phase, then I advise you to put a cock ring _cc781905-5cde -3194-bb3b-136bad5cf58d_ on your penis ! I can tell you that you will put stars in his eyes (and later elsewhere!) and you will even have more pleasure with this sex toy for men . Because it has two huge advantages:

  • it will give more width to your erect penis, your partner will thus have the feeling of having a bigger penis than usual in his hand (see the impression of having another sex, of another man, if ever his fantasy, your fantasy, is to sleep with other partners).

  • it will allow to delay ejaculation and thus to prolong the pleasure.


I can only recommend the use of a cock ring in your relationship with your partner! Really !

Here is the one that is for me the best cock ring currently on the market, the Bond from We-Vibe


Opinion of Jonathan - Le Male Français on the We-Vibe Cockring Bond:

The strong point of this cock ring lies in its opening which allows very easy fitting around the penis (or around the testicles). And this regardless of the size of the penis. The remote control that comes with it allows you to play with the different vibration modes simply. The elongated shape of this cock ring also allows you to press on the perineum for even more sensations. A very good cock ring for a solo moment during masturbation or during a relationship with his/her partner.

Here is our selection of cock rings, also tested and approved. Click the picture to buy them.

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If you have questions that you don't dare to ask, do not hesitate to send them to me via the contact form.

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