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My advice for a dilation of the anus

Are you looking for information to perfectly dilate the anus before anal penetration, sodomy , or even double anal penetration ? Then you've come to the right place!

In any case, here are the main points concerning the dilation of the anus:

  • you will have to listen to your partner whose anus you are dilating: above all, do not force yourself, stick to his gaze, his sighs, his body movements and especially the buttocks. It should be fun.

  • take it easy! The anus is a fragile area, it is necessary to take care of it.

  • avoid long fingernails when working the anus with your fingers. In order to avoid any injury of course.

Be aware that the dilation of the anus can occur at different times:

  • before penetration of course

  • before a double anal penetration

  • before apegging session, i.e. when a woman penetrates a man with a strap-on

  • during a masturbation session, to double the pleasure.  Moreover, we advise you to opt for a masturbator or a cock ring to have even more pleasure.

Through this article, we are going to give you all our advice to make your anal dilation a success, whether you are a man or a woman.

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The importance of lubricants for the dilation of the anus

The lubricant is an essential element in the work of dilation of the anus. We do not advise you to do without it. Why ? Because the anus is not an organ that will lubricate itself naturally. It is therefore important to help him to avoid:

  • pain with the person who is going to be sodomized

  • discomfort

  • potential anal injuries, such as a tear or crack.

But be careful, don't take just any lubricant! It is advisable to take an anal lubricant, which is particularly suitable for the anus and to accompany the work of dilation then penetration. The anal lubricant will indeed be more resistant to the classic lubricant, it will dry less due to the heat caused by the comings and goings of the finger, the penis or the sex toy that you are going to use.

Similarly, regarding the lubricant, it is advisable during your anal initiation to take the simplest possible anal lubricant, without flavor, without smell, without cooling effect like mint or heating. Because it may bother you more than anything else. This type of lubricant is to be preferred if you are really experienced with anal penetration.

Here is our selection of lubricants for the anus:

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If it's your first anal penetration and you're really afraid of pain, that it prevents you from initiating anal sex, there is the relaxing anal gel , which will anesthetize the anus. So, between us, it doesn't matter because you're not going to enjoy the pleasures of anal sex. But if it can relax you and bring you to this sexual practice, then you can test.

Here is the relaxing gel that we recommend:

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Which sex toys to choose for the dilation of the anus?


We've talked about tongue and fingers, but you can also use sex toys for the anus dilation job. The advantage of sex toys is that it will bring additional pleasure, even greater excitement at this time. Here are the sex toys that we recommend, from the smallest to the largest!

The prostate stimulator

The prostate stimulator is a sex toy that will mainly concern men, men who are therefore preparing to receive sodomy. This sex toy for men is very interesting because it will allow, with its slightly curved shape, to tickle the prostate, which is the organ considered to be the G fist in men. When the prostate is well titillated, it's guaranteed pleasure, even orgasm! The advantage of the prostate stimulator is that it also tickles the perineum, a muscle that can bring great sensations.

Why start dilating the anus with a prostate stimulator?

  • because it is relatively thin, it represents the size of two fingers glued to each other. It can therefore easily enter the anus

  • then because it will bring a lot of pleasure by going to tickle the prostate and the perineum, and therefore relax, relax the person who is in the process of being dilated. And we know that if the person being dilated is relaxed, then his muscles will also be relaxed and the dilation will happen more quickly.

Here is our selection of prostate stimulator:

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Opinion of Jonathan - Le Male Français on the Helix Syn Trident prostate stimulator:

It's quite simply the ideal sex toy for discovering the joys of anal pleasure! Yes, I am talking about joy because when you have discovered this, you will not be able to do without it! This Helix Syn Trident prostate stimulator is very pleasant to the touch, very soft, which allows gentle introduction into the anus. Likewise, it is relatively thin, which means that beginners will have no fear in using it. Its shape will directly touch the prostate and the base will allow you to press the perineum at the same time: double pleasure guaranteed.

The anal plug to relax the anus

Another sex toy that you can use for anal stretching is the butt plug . It concerns both women and men. The anal plug is an elongated sex toy, the purpose of which is to provide anal pleasure through the sensation of having a full anus. It will therefore press against all the nerve endings that you have in the anus.

Why is the anal plug interesting?

  • on the one hand, there are anal plugs in different sizes, from the smallest anal plug to the XXL anal plug . The small plug, also an anal plug for beginners , will therefore concern people who have no experience with anal penetration and who therefore need a lot of dilation work. The XXL anal plug will concern people who are already used to sodomy and who even go into more extreme practices, such as fisting.

  • then, the anal plug is a very nice product to integrate into your sex life because there are different colors, different shapes, and some even have jewelry. This is called the anal jewel .

Here is our selection of anal plugs for beginners:

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You can also use an inflatable anal plug , which will then take the size you want. Yes, it swells! Ideal, or even perfect, for gently dilating the anus.

Here is the one that is for us the best inflatable anal plug:

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Dildos for a big dilation of the anus

Well, the use of the dildo is not necessary for the work of dilation of the anus. Because you might as well put a penis in it. But it can add a little spice. And then, if you want to have a big dilation of the anus, especially to prepare for a double anal penetration, then the dildo can be relevant.

Here is our selection of dildos:

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Realistic 8 inch dildo


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All Black Dildo 22cm


Are poppers effective in dilating the anus?

The poppers are an element that was first widely used in the gay community mainly for the purpose of dilating the anus. Today, its consumption has spread widely and no longer concerns only the gay community. Concretely, the poppers will act as a vasodilator, which will therefore dilate the blood vessels and relax the muscles. But poppers also have other consequences:

  • it stimulates the libido by bringing in particular a "heat stroke"

  • it is a powerful sexual stimulant that will disinhibit, generally people who take it are more open, let go more

  • it increases the production of dopamine which is the hormone of desire

However, many people can't stand poppers because of the smell.

You should know that poppers have been legal in France since 2013. But, it is not without danger and a (high) consumption of poppers can lead to:

  • migraines

  • slight burns or yellow scabs on the nose

  • poisoning if you drink it! Above all, do not drink the poppers.

It is therefore strongly discouraged for people:

  • asthmatics

  • pregnant or breastfeeding women

  • who have heart problems

  • who have health concerns.


In any case, if ever you do not like to inhale the poppers directly from the bottle, it is advisable to leave the bottle open in the room, close to you: the poppers will gradually evaporate in the room and you will feel the effects.

Want some poppers? We advise you to buy them on Jacquie and Michel 's shop by clicking on the image below


Want more advice on anal dilation? 


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