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How to choose your first sex toy for men?

Have you decided to take the leap and buy your first sex toy for men? Congratulations ! Yes we can say it because for many guys it may be a milestone to buy their first sex toy for men . A course in the sense that you have to dare to do it, sometimes also you have to dare to ask permission from your partner if you want to use it as a couple. But generally, his first sex toy is for completely personal use. Anyway, since us guys haven't had an education on sex toys (and it's not something you bring up on the table with your friends either), maybe complicated to know which 1st sex toy for men to buy .

Do not panic, Le Male Français is here to help you. Through the advice blog on sex toys , you can already get an idea of sex toys for beginners. But through this article, I decided to make a summary.

If you're worried about buying your first sex toy for men, fear not. Online sex toy shops send packages completely anonymously. It is therefore not the trade name of the store that will appear on the package. No risk of being grilled by the postman or your parents!

How to choose your first sex toy for men?

Before rushing headlong into the first online sales site for sex toys, it is necessary to ask yourself certain questions first and foremost in order to choose your first sex toy for men.

The 1st sex toy for which part of a man's body?


It may seem like a strange question, but the first question you should ask yourself before buying your first sex toy for men is: what am I going to do with it? Is it for a masturbation session or is it to discover new sensations in anal sex for example? Concretely, what do you want to do with this 1st sex toy for men?

  • if you want to break your masturbation routine and want to jerk off differently, in this case a masturbator will be an excellent choice as your first sex toy. You can find our selection below.

  • if you want to give your partner a bigger penis then the cock ring, also called penis ring, will be perfect.

  • if you want to discover the joys of prostate orgasm , then a prostate stimulator will be the sex toy to have.

  • if you want to have new sensations and discover all the joys offered by the rectum, then an anal plug will be ideal.

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What fantasy can you achieve with this first sex toy for men?


If you have decided to take your first sex toy for men, it is certainly because you have fantasies that you would like to explore. And you're absolutely right, a guy should have no shame, no embarrassment in wanting to satisfy certain fantasies in his corner, alone in his bedroom or in his bathroom.

This is one of the big advantages of sex toys for men , it is that you will be able to free yourself sexually and do what you want to do, without necessarily integrating another person .

  • So, if you want to discover the joys of anal sex without anyone seeing you, go ahead, don't be afraid to use a beginner's anal plug as your first sex toy for men. You will be alone to put this object in your buttocks, without you having the slightest stress. And above all, you will use this sex toy at your own pace, without any pressure.

  • If you think you have a small penis and you want to see what it feels like to have a thicker, wider cock (allow me the expression), do not hesitate to put a cock ring at the base of your penis while you masturbate. There's no shame in that.

  • And if you are in a relationship, and you want to be sodomized by Mrs (or Mr) and thus have the feeling of being in a threesome, then the prostate stimulator could be perfect.

These are only ideas here, of course each person has their own fantasies.

Do you live alone or with other people?

A final question to ask yourself before buying your first sex toy for men is whether you live alone or live with other people and are looking to be discreet. This is an important question because there are a lot of different sex toys for men, some being more discreet than the other. If you have to hide them, you will inevitably have to opt for small sex toys for men or disposable sex toys for men.

Also, how much space do you have to store these sex toys? If it's in your bedside table, then space will be rather limited.

Finally, some sex toys for men, I am thinking in particular of masturbators and cock rings, are vibrating. If you use it in the middle of the night when everyone is sleeping, it could be heard (especially if the walls are thin).

My selection of the best 1st sex toys for men


How to choose your first masturbator


I'm going to start my selection of the best 1st sex toys for men with masturbators. Because this type of sex toy is usually the first sex toy you buy. And yes, almost all men masturbate every day, so break the routine from time to time with a sex toy.

To do this, I am therefore going to recommend the best-selling masturbator today, the Fleshlight Flight Pilot

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Opinion of Jonathan - Le Male Français on the Fleshlight Flight Pilot:

Why do I recommend this masturbator to you? For several reasons. On the one hand, Fleshlight is the specialist brand for non-disposable masturbators. Or you can reuse as you see fit. Then, these masturbators have different textures inside that will give you other sensations completely different from what you can feel with your hand . Basically, you will rediscover masturbation. Don't hesitate to apply gel to make the glide more pleasant. Ah, I forgot, whatever the length and thickness of your penis, it fits!

Excellent value.

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Tenga Masturbator

Egg Wavy


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Tenga Masturbator

Egg Spider


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Tenga Masturbator

Egg Crater



If you're looking for discretion, you don't want to have to hide your first sex toy for men and for you the ideal would be to have a disposable sex toy, then don't hesitate, go for the Tenga eggs. Tenga is the brand specializing in disposable masturbators . Namely that once you have jerked off with it (and therefore come inside) you can throw it away. Neither seen nor known. So some guys reuse this type of sextoy a second time, it's possible if you didn't go there like a beast!

Another practical point with these Tenga eggs, their price, less than 10€. Accessible to all budgets therefore (no pun intended). Each egg has its own texture and there are a good dozen of them. You have something to do.

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Discovery of anal pleasure with a prostate stimulator

Another desire that guys want to discover is the one coming from the rectum. And yes, our famous G-spot for us guys is in our buttocks, namely the prostate. When it is solicited, not to say tickle, some guys experience a stronger orgasm than during an ejaculation. And for that, we put aside all the controversies related to homosexuality ok: all guys have the same rectum, the same prostate, so all guys regardless of their sexual orientation can discover the joys of prostate simulation without take the lead. Besides, why deprive yourself of the pleasure that nature has given us!

Now, it's true that guys like to be alone for that because the first time you have to go there without pressure, without stress. Yes, the fear of having pain is very present, and it is quite normal. But to avoid pain, I have a sex toy for men perfect for that, the prostate stimulator and in particular the  Helix Syn Trident prostate stimulator from Aneros . This is for me the best prostate stimulator that can be found today.

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Opinion of Jonathan - Le Male Français on the Helix Syn Trident prostate stimulator:

This sex toy is perfect for discovering the pleasure associated with the prostate. Why ? Because it will prevent you from feeling any pain related to the introduction of an object through your anus. Indeed, this product is ideal as a first sex toy for men because it is very thin, the size of a finger. But as it is slightly curved, it will directly position itself at the level of the prostate. So no pain, easy to penetrate, what more could you ask for. Icing on the cake, it does not take up space, easy to store, to hide. What you have fun and take pleasure in all discretion.

If you want a cheaper prostate stimulator, there is of course one. The difference with the one I put for you above is that they will be less soft to the touch. But they do the job perfectly because they are also very thin (avoid prostate stimulators which are wide at the end, they are reserved for guys who are already used to introducing sex toys through their anus). Here is a selection.

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Apollo Curved Prostate Probe Prostate Stimulator


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Apollo Curved Prostate Probe Prostate Stimulator


Here is my selection of the best first sex toys for men to have.


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