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How not to have pain during anal penetration?

Many people, women and men, are tempted by anal penetration, but few of them finally dare to take the plunge for fear of pain. We have clearly specified women as well as men in the introduction because anal sex concerns everyone, whatever their sexual tendencies. Straight men have as much interest in discovering sodomy as gays, for example, the anus is made the same with the same G-spot, the prostate! So, it's not because you get caught, dear gentlemen, that you become gay... On this blog, we don't care about categorizations, the goal is to have fun. Moreover, it would seem that many women would like to test pegging , namely sodomizing their male partner with a dildo. Gentlemen, that's it!


Having pain during anal penetration is indeed the first obstacle to this sexual practice , the second being the dirty side.  elsewhere in this blog for advice on sex toys and male sexuality through an article on the enema . The pains during anal penetration are however not present from the moment the anus is well worked, or a good job of dilation of the anus has been carried out.


Through this article, we are going to give you all our advice so that your first anal penetration goes well and that the anal initiation you wish to begin makes you want to continue this practice.

The importance of hygiene for anal penetration


We saw it in the introduction, one of the main fears of anal penetration is the dirty side of this practice. It is completely normal that you have this fear, this fear, the first function of the anus is still to evacuate the excrements. Obviously, it is not the cleanest part of our bodies. This is all the more so if you do not wax the SIF : traces of excrement could remain in the hair. Why is hygiene important: because one of the keys to success in not having pain during anal penetration is rimming ! We will come back to this point below.

But for that, don't worry, you have different techniques to make your anus the most pleasant. Of course, you can take a shower a few moments before anal penetration . With your partner it's better to start foreplay. You can also go to the toilet to "empty" yourself beforehand, in order to avoid the risks as much as possible.

It is also advisable to epilate the intergluteal furrow, to remove all the hairs near your anus and thus have a perfectly clean entrance. Here are the products we recommend.

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Veet Men Hair Removal Cream can be used on the chest and the whole body* *Chest, Back, Armpits, Groin, Arms, Legs

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Premium depilatory cream for intimate areas: groin, pubis and buttocks


If you decide to do hair removal, be careful not to put cream on your anus directly, made of mucous membranes. This may cause you burns. You don't want to wax, so you can opt for a shaving session!

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Designed for shaving the male body. Rounded head for maximum comfort. Three lubricating strips for maximum softness. Non-slip ergonomic handle.

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The anti-irritation shaving gel allows easy shaving of body hair without irritation.

Suitable for the shower.

The importance of foreplay for anal penetration


One of the rules not to have during your anal penetration, whether it is the first anal penetration or if you are used to this practice, is to have foreplay that focuses on your anus! Foreplay centered on the anus will have 3 major roles:

  • on the one hand excite you! And the more excited you are, the less pain you will have!

  • on the other hand relax! The more relaxed you are, the less focused you will be on the pain it can cause. Because we must not forget one thing, the psychological side takes an important part in the feeling of pain: the more you are afraid of having pain, the more you are preparing to have pain!

  • Finally, foreplay allows you to dilate your anus! And yes, the anus can dilate, especially the muscles of the anus, thus making anal penetration easier.

As for foreplay, you have two techniques for this:

  • fingers, whether yours or your partner's! Do not put your partner's penis, a dildo or an anal plug in your anus right away. You have to go slowly to prepare your anus! You can thus start with one finger, then two fingers, three fingers.

  • your partner's tongue, through an anilingus. We talked about it a little earlier in this article, rimming is a great way to relax the anus and turn you on!

The obligation of anal gel for anal penetration

Another solution to avoid pain during anal penetration is to use a lubricant. But beware, by anyone! Always use an anal lubricant, also called anal gel , rather than a regular lubricant. Why ? Because the anal lubricant is more resistant, so it will last longer! The lubricant will allow the penis or sex toy to penetrate better into your anus and will act as a protection for your anus: you will feel less friction, so you will have less pain and you can then concentrate on your pleasure.

It is advisable to apply an anal lubricant as soon as you start inserting something in your anus, such as a finger. Remember that the anus does not lubricate like a vagina for example.

Here is our selection of lubricants for the anus.

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If you are really afraid of hurting even when using a lubricant, then there are relaxing products! Yes, you read it right, products that will anesthetize your anus a little. Recommended if you are really afraid of having pain. Here is the product we recommend, click on it to access it.

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A sex toy to facilitate anal penetration


Of course, there are different sex toys that will allow you to master your penetration without pain. Moreover, if you want to train before being with your partner, you can use these anal sex toys alone! Nothing better than to tame your anus, master anal penetration gently and at your own pace.

To do this, you have a choice. We advise you if you are a man to start with a prostate stimulator . This sex toy is indeed perfect for men because thanks to its slightly curved shape, it will tickle your prostate, the G-spot! In addition, another advantage, it is thin which means that it fits perfectly into the anus without pain. The prostate stimulator is thus an excellent way for men to begin anal penetration.


Here is our selection of prostate stimulators. Click on the image to access the Aneros catalog at Espace Plaisir:

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The one we recommend above all is the Helix Syn Trident from Aneros:

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Opinion of Jonathan - Le Male Français on the Helix Syn Trident prostate stimulator:

It's quite simply the ideal sex toy for discovering the joys of anal pleasure! Yes, I am talking about joy because when you have discovered this, you will not be able to do without it! This Helix Syn Trident prostate stimulator is very pleasant to the touch, very soft, which allows gentle introduction into the anus. Likewise, it is relatively thin, which means that beginners will have no fear in using it. Its shape will directly touch the prostate and the base will allow you to press the perineum at the same time: double pleasure guaranteed.

If you don't want to spend too much on a prostate stimulator, then you can take a 1st price. They are certainly not of the same quality, but this will at least allow you to test the anal pleasure, before possibly buying a better quality one. Here are the cheapest I've found:

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Apollo Curved Prostate Probe Prostate Stimulator


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Apollo Curved Prostate Probe Prostate Stimulator


The second perfect sex toy to start anal penetration without hurting is the anal plug, but be careful not just any, the anal plug for beginners ! Indeed, there are different kinds of plugs, depending on the experience you have with sodomy. So don't use an XXL plug for your first anal penetration! This will not pass! Beginner plugs have the advantage of being the thinnest, and therefore the easiest to insert without pain.


You do not know which plug to choose to start! Here is our selection below:

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Finally, if you are really worried about not relaxing during your first anal, you always have the option of taking poppers. Well, you have to like the smell and you have to want to sniff something very chemical. Be careful with its use, do not abuse it too much. We therefore advise you, rather than snorting, to leave the bottle open on your bedside table for example, and to close your bedroom: the poppers will thus be diluted in the bedroom.

You can find some on Jacquie et Michel's online store by clicking on the image below. The Jungle Juice is one of the most appreciated by popper lovers.


More advice on anal penetration?

If in addition to this article you would like to have even more information on anal penetration, especially through testimonials from guys, then I invite you to subscribe to my Instagram account Faistoimale . In particular, you will find in stories on the front page content that talks about this subject. If you don't have Instagram, the account also exists on Facebook ! Good discovery !

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